What is counselling ?
Counselling is a process that
enables a person to sort out issues and reach decisions affecting
their life. Often counselling is sought out at times of change or
crisis, it need not be so, however, as counselling can also help us at
any time of our life.
Counselling involves talking with a
person in a way that helps that person solve a problem or helps to
create conditions that will cause the person to understand and/or
improve his behaviour, character, values or life circumstances.
Counselling is often performed
face-to-face in confidential sessions between the counsellor and client(s). However, counselling can also be undertaken by telephone, in
writing and, in these days of the Internet, by email or video
Counselling can and may take many
different formats to bring a person to a better understanding of them
self and others. It can therefore be seen that counselling can be of
benefit to a person experiencing problems in finding, forming, and
Relationship counselling is not about
giving advice. It is about helping and supporting a person to find an
understanding and answers that work for that person. Counselling is a
friendly, supportive and positive approach to personal development.
Many people seeking counselling, have
problems or past experiences in their life, which they find difficult
to overcome. These experiences and problems prevent the person moving
forward in their life. Counselling helps the person face the effects of
past experiences and seek ways to overcome them.
Clients usually find counselling a very
liberating and empowering experience. That is not to say that they do
not feel nervous or daunted when first approaching a counsellor, they
do! However, the process and the feeling afterwards, are usually very
positive and beneficial.
Counselling may take time to work,
depending upon the nature and number of problems being presented by
the client. Sometimes, a single or a few sessions are all that is
needed. At other times, longer periods, possibly months or up to a
couple of years may be needed. The counsellor is there throughout to
assist the client in their development.
So if you are facing a crisis in your
life, or a period of change, then may be counselling could help you. If
you feel things may be going wrong in your life and you want to
understand why and do something about it, then may be counselling could
is often thought of as being the 'father' of counselling. It is he who
devised the phrase 'person-centered' or 'client-centered' counselling as
a description of his approach to therapy with clients. This phrase
appears to have been derived from an earlier phrase he used,
'non-directive', which is a phrase still used in Life coaching.
Counselling is often a misunderstood
approach. People feel that it is just talking and lacks any practical or
therapeutic approaches. Whilst talking, or rather communicating, issues
is central to the counselling process, it is the listening and the
reflecting done by the counsellor that helps the client to understand
their problem better. In Carl Rogers' approach to counselling, it is
believed that the client already has all the skills necessary for them
to tackle the issues they present. This latter point is a factor that
helps distinguish counselling from 'other forms of therapy which provide
an 'expert' to provide a 'cure' or 'treatment' for you